Thursday, January 1, 2009
Never... not ever
Questions... Is it that common to have never had an orgasm? This questions comes from a show I was watching and the conversation that followed. In the show a woman in her 30s was talking about how she had never had an orgasm while having sex. So that lead to the conversation about orgasms in general, how often they occur, and what can be done to ensure they occur. Now we all know that achieving orgasm is different for men than for women. Men typically achieve this a little easier. Women require more effort and time. After having the discussion with a few people it became clear that it is quite common for women not to achieve orgasm during actual intercourse. Many need some additional stimulation (if you know what I mean) to get to that point. But how common is it for a sexually active woman to have never ever achieve an orgasm? and if you are one of these woman do you fake them with your man? Finally, if you are actively having sex and never climaxing, is the sex truly satisfying for you? I would think it would be like watching a great movie and stopping just before the ending, or watching your favorite football team down by 2 points at the end of the 4th quarter, they just intercepted the ball and the cable goes off. But I could be wrong...what do you think?
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So, I've had this problem for a while. I can achieve the big "O" through different means but no intercourse. I've felt pleasure but never the "O"...I mean how do you tell your guy that without hurting his feelings and making him mad...so of course you just don't. Because of this and the effects of birth control I've just lost lots of interest in it all together. I guess the only way to fix it is to try new things and if that doesn't work it's pretty much a lost cause...I've decided to continue whatever it is that gets me to the "O" and then just give him what he wants.
This is such a problem. The interesting thing is if you have an attentive partner you can sometimes nicely guide them to do what you like with the good old "keep it right there" or "i like when you do that". The sad part is most guys don't take instruction well, especially not in the bedroom. This is such a problem, but what to do?
This is actually an interesting question. I truly believe that you don't know what your miising if you have never had the big "o." I mean, just think about it....with everything in your life fulfillment is what you deem satisfied. A person who thinks that sex is great but, who has never acheived an orgasm thinks that what ever they have "is it!" They don't realize that something is missing or that they are incomplete because they don't know what complete feels like!
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