I'm not sure about "they"

Question...Who is they? and why don't they have a name? Have you ever been in this scenario. You've been dating a guy for a while, you pretty much know his friends (either by meeting them or hearing him talk about them). Then all of sudden you guys are on the phone and he's telling you he's going to grab drinks after work with his friend, they haven't hung out in a while. That's no big deal right, but who is they? He doesn't say my friend Bob or Paul like he usually does when he talks about his friends. For some reason this friend remains nameless and genderless. So of course as any woman would you ask more questions, but the man never gives this person an identity. What do you think? Do you forget about it and move on to another subject, or do you wonder who the heck this person is and why they don't have a name. So of course you do what you do best, ask more questions. Eventually you find that "they" is another woman. Of course a harmless other woman that the man went to school with or some nonsense and happened to catch up with him on FB and "they" want to meet up in person. Now I am going to state my opinion about such a situation (because this isn't at all about me). If it were me in this sitution I would wonder why the person wasn't forthcoming with the information, especially if thats how they usually are. It would bother me that instead of just saying "hey I talked to my friend whatsherface from school, we're going to meet up for drinks after work" he had to try to avoid it. It would make me think he's trying to hide something. Now the meeting up with "they" for drinks could be totally innocent, but the simple fact that he tried to keep the person he was seeing away from me would raise some questions in my mind. So I pose the question to you, would such a scenario make you question this meeting with "they" or should it just be left alone?

Run from the Drama

Question…Will a guy turn away from a seemingly decent girl if she has too much drama in her life? So I was talking to a friend of mine about his past relationships. Much like ladies when he’s single he will talk to a number of women, as he gets to know them better certain characteristics will draw him to one girl more so than another. So he was telling me about this particular chick that he liked, but said she just had too much drama. She was cute, funny, educated, job, a lot going for herself. But during the course of their initial interaction she had issues like her car got messed up and she was going to have issues paying for it, her supervisor pissed her off in some kind of way and she thought she wanted to leave, her father died, and some other stuff happened. Now my friend is hardly insensitive, he understood that many of these things were far beyond her control and he cared, but it was just a lot to deal with in the early stages of courtship. So since he was talking to other women with less dramatic times in their lives he gravitated towards one of them instead of the drama chick. This got me to thinking about how much stuff you should reveal about your “drama” early on in a relationship. On one hand in the courting stage you want to develop the kind of relationship where you can tell the person anything and get some level of comfort when things aren’t going right, but should we be cautious not to tell too much too soon. Or is my friend just a special case? I can kind of see where he’s coming from. I mean if I met a guy and every time we talked he had another “issue” I would probably back off a little and give him time to get himself together as well. When it comes to talking to a potential is there a such thing as TMI when it comes to the dramatics life is bringing your way?