From lovin to loving?

Question… Is it possible to go from being just “buddies” to being a couple? Every once in a while one might find themselves in a mutually beneficial, no strings attached sexual relationship. This can be a very convenient situation if both parties are in the same place about it. But what happens when one or both parties think there could be something more? Is it possible to go from “knowing” each other strictly in the biblical sense to actually trying to get to know each other in every other sense? Would it be more difficult? Easier? My initial thoughts on this are that things could get a bit messy. And if for some reason things didn’t work out with the dating, not only would you lose someone you like, you’d also be giving up some good mutually beneficial loving. On the other hand if things did work out you’d have the best of both worlds. I gave this some thought and the interesting thing about sex is that two people can have great sex with each other, without actually knowing each other that well. And the interesting thing about that is sexual chemistry can sometimes mislead you into believing there could be some other kind of chemistry. With that being said, should you even entertain the whole sexing to dating transition or should you embrace the hopeless romantic philosophy and simply follow your heart?

What does the "Man Law" Say?

Question…for guys, is there some kind of “man law” for dating a friend’s ex? I know with girls there is an understanding that you typically steer clear of any guy that your friend has had a relationship with. It just goes without saying that those guys are off limits, especially if they had a significant relationship with them. But is the same thing true for guys. If your friend dated a girl for a while and it didn’t work out, would she be fair game? Is it a situational thing? What if your friend had a kid with this girl, would that make her off limits? I ask b/c I’ve seen a few situations where guys have pursued or at least entertained dating the ex girlfriend of one of their close friends. It makes me wonder if the dynamics of male relationships are just exponentially different. Now understand I’m not talking about a jump off or a one night stand. I’m referring to a substantial relationship that for whatever reason didn’t work out. Does that woman become fair game?

No babies over here

Question...If you find out the person you've been dating, the person that you really like is infertile is that a deal breaker? It’s interesting to be at that point in life where issues of fertility actually come in to play. Back in my early 20s it was assumed that whenever I was ready the babies would come. But at this point in life (although I’m as fertile as they come it seems) I've seen people close to me deal with fertility issues...both male and female. So it got me to wondering, in this time where dating is a lot more serious is fertility (or lack there of) a deal breaker. Let’s say you've been dating someone for a month or two and you know you really like them and feel like a future could be possible. They then tell you they can't have kids...Understand we are not talking about them not wanting to have them b/c that's an easier answer, but for this situation they are saying they are incapable of having a child themselves. Is it fair/warranted/understandable to end the courtship? If it’s a good guy/girl should you at continue the relationship and deal with the kid issue later down the line?