Question...(well its really not a question because I already know the answer) is it ever okay to purposely "surprise" your man with a baby. This conversation is sparked by two things. The first is an episode of the Hills where Heidi wants a kid and Spencer doesn't. So she says "i was thinking I could just stop taking my bc and just get pregnant and surprise him...then he would realize how much he really does want kids". Now this sounds like a disaster and the two of them are married. The other thing that sparked this is a situation where a girl I know purposely got pregnant by her guy in hopes of taking their relationship to the next level...sadly for her it turns out to have had the opposite effect because the guy doesn't want a kid at ALL, they are no closer than they were before, and the whole situation is breeding resentment on both sides.
So I guess my ultimate question is…do women still think you can keep a man with a baby? We aren’t talking about the babies that are results of “oops” moments or contraception malfunctions. I’m talking about women (or men for that matter) who purposely deceive their partner into getting knocked up in hopes of having a happy ending (the figurative happy ending, not the literal one). And why in the world would you think that? Babies are huge strains on marriages, so imagine the impact it can have on average uncommitted persons. Not only that, do you really want a relationship that is thought about, brought about, or kept about simply because of a baby? Shouldn’t the person want to have a happy ending with you because of just you, not because you are having their (or they are having your) baby?
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SMART women do not think this at all. if a woman does think this, then she (almost) deserves what she gets. you cannot play games with your man, yourself or your relationship - not like that. a baby is a human being, not some inanimate object.
another question to pose about babies...do women get to a certain point where they want a baby and they don't care the consequences? or if a women does try to trap a man, does he become collateral damage to her maternal instinct/desire?
men are good for a lot of things, but only necessary for one......
where are the thoughts and expressions of feenix on this one?
I do think you have a point, some women just want a baby. The man is a means to an end. If a woman is determined to get preggers she can and will do it no matter what.
Well since I have been summoned... My response is this. Babies have NEVER and NEVER WILL keep a man!!!! Plain and simple! He may stick around for some time but when he's ready to go he is gonna bounce.
Point#2: are you out your fucking mind "ladies" and the term is used loosely cuz a lady won't resort to such shenanigans to have spawn in addition ladies want babies with men that want to give them one.
Therefore, I think those that resort to trickery should be jailed and parental rights stripped. Whatever happened to communism???
Interesting topic....I'll just say this and then move on...A GUY asked me to "just get preggers with his kid"....WHY, I asked?? His response: Because I have known you for a while, you seem like you would be a good mother and neither of us have kids....My response: GTFOH! And besides...we have never been "together" (BUT HE IS FYNE & SINGLE, BUT WITH A STANK ATTITUDE)...So, my point is..it is not just women, but apparently some guys just want a baby also...
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