Monday, March 30, 2009
Where have they all gone?
Question…Where did all the good men and women go? This is a question I’ve heard asked my many people. Many of my male friends only want a good woman, but for some reason they just can’t find one. This is even more so the case for my female friends. The search for a reasonable man is just about as successful as the search for Bin Laden. How is it possible that all these men are searching for good women and all these women are searching for good men, but both parties keeps coming up empty handed? What’s the problem, I mean I know women (esp black women) have been accused of being too picky. I’m not sure what constitutes as being too picky, but most of us just want an employed, intelligent, interesting man, preferably with some ambition, and his own residence. I don’t think that’s asking too much. To be honest I don’t really understand why my male friends have such trouble finding women. I mean simply look at the ratio of men to women, its like a candy store of ladies to choose from. All colors and flavors out there for you. I guess it’s a matter of quality rather than quantity in this situation. But for women it’s a little different. Not as many men to choose from, crazy competition from other woman who sniff out decent men like blood hounds. If you have any preferences like gainfully employed, college educated, and interested in a serious relationship the pool gets even smaller. Understand I’m not implying there are no good men out there because I’m positive there are a decent number, they are just seemingly hard to find. However I am a woman so despite my efforts to be neutral in this, I’m a tad biased. What about this lack of “good women”. Since I’m not a guy I don’t really know what they consider “good”. But I swear every other day I meet another beautiful, smart, well spoken, single woman that would love to have a relationship if the right man would just come along. And if there are all these “good” men and “good” women looking for each other why in the world aren’t they finding each other?
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4 comments:
Maybe you should start a matchmaking service. :) Just think about the world of good you'd be doing! (Well until it went badly and you had all these people yelling at your for ruining their lives. But besides that part I mean.) ;)
That's a really good idea! I could totally be a matchmaker. People would just have to sign something that says i'm not responsible for any break ups, restraining orders, property damage, or other issues that result from the match...lol
Well here I go about to provide my perspective...
There are plenty of GOOD and GREAT men out there. But like my daddy they are probably married to the good woman they found a long long long time ago.
Secondly the next set of good great men who have education, intelligence, financial stability, good looks, their own residence and vehicle would rather go shopping with you than date you. A true reality everbody is not interested in what is considered the norm
Third, I am sure you meet "good" men and "good" woman on a daily basis. But they seem good to you because you are not trying to date them. So you don't see the nagging, the distrust, the psychotic behavior that will definitely make the UNATTRACTIVE to a potential mate. Oh not to mention everyone looks good 90 days into the relationship(if you can call it that after 90 days). Its that 91st day that the true them rears its ugly head....
Lastly, they need a representation of what GOOD is before they can claim to be that. How many have really seen that...As you know my mom and dad have been together since the age of 12 and when I was born they were already married and here I am a grown man and they are still kicking...something to think about for all the "good" men and "good" women.
i think that as we get older....we expect more. we expect to at least find our equal. and at the most, someone to challenge us. on the other hand, the are the issues that we 'gain' as we age. issues, baggage, whatever you want to call it! so they are out there, the pool is just kiddie sized now that we are approaching 30.
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