Rules of Quitting...

Question…if you are early on in dating a person and for whatever reason you decide to quit them, do you need to officially let them know they’ve been quit or is it ok to just disappear? Now understand with this I’m not talking about a serious relationship b/c clearly that deserves an actual ending. But let’s say you’ve only gone out on two or three dates and you realize they just aren’t it. Can you just slowly stop returning their calls or stop accepting dates and try to end them into the friend zone? Is that rude? What if you’ve given them some lovin and then you realize it’s just not going to work…does the introduction of lovin warrant a face to face quitting? What’s appropriate?

Bad Timing

Question… why is it that your other is never ready to make up when you are? This comes from an episode of SATC my friend and I were watching the other day. In the episode Carrie and Aiden got into a huge fight and she walked out of the house. After drinking coffee, writing, and chatting, she came home ready to put the fight behind her. Only to find that Aiden was still pissy, which just made her pissy again. Now this is such a common occurrence… one person is ready to start loving again, the other is still stewing in their anger. Why is that? Do men and women really just go through the cycle of emotions differently? The funny part about it is if in fact you’re ready for making up and your partner isn’t it just makes you mad all over again and surely extends the fight all together. Because not only are you pissed at what they did, now your pissed because they have the nerve to still be mad at you when they are the reason you’re fighting (at least that’s how you feel regardless of who’s fault the fight was). Is it possible to get you other on your cycle before they are ready? Or do you just have to suck it up and deal with the pissyness? What if it starts to get out of hand, I mean people begin to get stubborn (have you seen the movie the break up). It goes from being a fight to a battle of wills, the person who breaks first is admitting defeat and that cannot be done at any cost. Well I guess that’s a bit much, but you get where I’m going. So how do you get your other back in that loving feeling when they are still pissy with you?