Wednesday, September 8, 2010
No babies over here
Question...If you find out the person you've been dating, the person that you really like is infertile is that a deal breaker? It’s interesting to be at that point in life where issues of fertility actually come in to play. Back in my early 20s it was assumed that whenever I was ready the babies would come. But at this point in life (although I’m as fertile as they come it seems) I've seen people close to me deal with fertility issues...both male and female. So it got me to wondering, in this time where dating is a lot more serious is fertility (or lack there of) a deal breaker. Let’s say you've been dating someone for a month or two and you know you really like them and feel like a future could be possible. They then tell you they can't have kids...Understand we are not talking about them not wanting to have them b/c that's an easier answer, but for this situation they are saying they are incapable of having a child themselves. Is it fair/warranted/understandable to end the courtship? If it’s a good guy/girl should you at continue the relationship and deal with the kid issue later down the line?
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well, it should be talked about, it's part of future togetherness. i don't think it's a deal breaker, a soul mate is a soul mate. you don't find those everyday. there are so many children needing love in AMERICA (that would be a whole 'nother blog if i got started on international adoption).
i wouldn't wish infertility on anyone, because there is such a big joy that comes with being a mother. unexplainable. you don't get it until you have kids, or maybe until you are told you can't have kids.
it must be discussed, but it's not a deal breaker. just opens your options up.
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