Sunday, September 19, 2010

From lovin to loving?

Question… Is it possible to go from being just “buddies” to being a couple? Every once in a while one might find themselves in a mutually beneficial, no strings attached sexual relationship. This can be a very convenient situation if both parties are in the same place about it. But what happens when one or both parties think there could be something more? Is it possible to go from “knowing” each other strictly in the biblical sense to actually trying to get to know each other in every other sense? Would it be more difficult? Easier? My initial thoughts on this are that things could get a bit messy. And if for some reason things didn’t work out with the dating, not only would you lose someone you like, you’d also be giving up some good mutually beneficial loving. On the other hand if things did work out you’d have the best of both worlds. I gave this some thought and the interesting thing about sex is that two people can have great sex with each other, without actually knowing each other that well. And the interesting thing about that is sexual chemistry can sometimes mislead you into believing there could be some other kind of chemistry. With that being said, should you even entertain the whole sexing to dating transition or should you embrace the hopeless romantic philosophy and simply follow your heart?

2 comments:

Mamalicious said...

follow your heart!!! if you see potential after only just being biblical, then maybe there is something there. cause we all know true colors come out during sex. no hiding who you are there.

~JSW said...

Do you think the true colors come out during sex? I mean maybe they do, it is an intimate act. But there are plenty of folks that have a lot of great sex but really don't work as a couple.