5 months and counting...

Question...if you had been dating a guy for 5 months and there was nothing going on in the loving department what would you think? This situation is a bit interesting b/c sex or the lack thereof can cause a number of problems in a relationship. So let’s say you've been dating a guy for 5 months and he does not want to have sex with you. He isn't a virgin and he's not waiting for marriage, he says he just wants to take his time? Would that be flattering? Would that be difficult to deal with? Personally speaking going 5 months without sex is easy when you aren't in a relationship, but when you're consistently dating someone that is pretty hard. I could respect a decision like that from a guy I was dealing with, but I also would not be able to be alone with them b/c I would probably attack them at some point. In the situation I speak of, the woman has actually made advances towards the guy, but he has turned her down.

Now for the sake of argument, isn't this rather refreshing? In an era of dating where sex is so commonplace, many folks these days get it in on the first date. So finding a guy that is willing to put in some serious time just being in the relationship and getting to know you is wonderful. It allows you to really see a person for who they are without being clouded by the sex. But if you are a person that likes to have sex when you're in a relationship something like that would be pretty hard to deal with. Especially when you offer up the hot pocket and the guy graciously declines. I mean where do you go from there? What is a reasonable waiting period for relations? At what point do you start to question the situation? What would you do about it?

Baby Daddy Drama

Question…Why do guys think they can always “come back” to the mother of their child? So there is this young lady I know, her child is about 7 mos old and she and the father are no longer together. In fact the father of the child is in a relationship and lives with his girlfriend who believes they are getting married this year. The situation between my friend and her bd is cool, she is not interested in a romantic relationship with him, but wants some level of friendship established for the child. Well the dad has been making passes at my friend whenever he comes over to get the baby. Sometimes his girlfriend will be in the car waiting for him to get the baby, and he will be telling my friend how much he misses her or trying to hug her and kiss her. The other day he told her he didn’t know if he would ever stop being attracted to her and tried to make another pass. He’s pretty much made it clear that he’s interested in at least a physical relationship with her, even though he lives with his girlfriend. Again my friend is no longer interested in him and shuts down his advances when he makes them, but she also wonders how long it will take for him to stop with the games. Is this guy just a dog who wants to have his cake and eat it too? Is it possible that he’s just so caught up in having a baby that he is having misguided feelings for the mother of his child? Or is there the expectation that just because they conceived a child together, he can just get it whenever he wants?