YBR-- Sticks and stones

Question...Why do we say hurtful things to the people we love? Everyone has been there, your significant other says or does something that makes you mad and then.... you have to do something to hurt them back. Maybe you call them a name, curse them out, pick on that one thing their insecure about, or find that one button you know will set them off and push it over and over. But why? I mean we're all guilty of it, but why intentionally say or do things that hurt the person you love. Words are particularly hurtful and can do a lot of damage in a relationship. Your tongue is a powerful weapon, so you have to be responsible in how you use it. Your words and actions have the power to stay with a person long after an argument or heated situation. They can cause permanent and irreversible damage to your relationship. I personally think that when you're mad you do one of two things; you either say things you don't mean at all or you say all the things you really want to say but wouldn't in normal circumstances. I had a situation where a person the person I was dating shared his very negative opinion about "most" single mothers. Of course I took offense. He apologized, explained himself, told me he wasn't talking about me, blah, blah, blah, but nothing he said could take away the hurt he caused in that moment. And until this day I still question whether what he said was just a stupid comment or how he really felt. When you really think about it the second or two it takes you to rethink your words or use better judgment with your actions is priceless when compared with the damage you could do by talking slick. Although it's a trite saying, two wrongs don't make a right. I once heard this poet talking about this exact same subject and one line was "sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will F you up forever". Besides why would you want to do or say anything to hurt the person you love anyway?